Being a cougar is about way more than just having a thing for younger men, it’s also an attitude; a way of thinking that shows you are a liberated, confident and proactive woman who knows what she wants.

Take Debora Jo Myers for example - the creator of LadyFire.com, a cool (or should that be hot) little site packed full of sexy, inspiring and entertaining articles and opinions.

Debora says, “A Life without Fire, is like a heart without passion”. So if you want to turn the temperature up in your love life, check out LadyFire today.

Cougars, with their life experience and know-how, are some of the savviest women we know. We’re always on the lookout for positive and interesting websites and magazines suitable for our members, and so we’d like to suggest Savvy Women Magazine. The next time you’re looking for some fashion, beauty and lifestyle reading, Savvy Women is worth checking out.

Every cougar and every cub has a few good dating stories in them. If you’re looking for juicy tales from the date hunting ground, we here at Cougared.com recommend you take a look at Julie Spira’s new book, The Perils of Cyber Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

‘So what?’ you say, ‘another book about online dating? Big deal.’ Ah, but this isn’t just any dating book. Spira is a seasoned online dating expert and the creator of www.CyberDatingExpert.com, Ms Spira also provides her expert dating advice as the  LA Dating Advice Examiner, on DateDaily, and is the host of “Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show on BlogTalkRadio. With a career like that, you’d hope she had a bit of dating experience to speak from; and she has.

The book, The Perils of Cyber Dating, lounges languidly over 15 years and tells the tales of 250 dates, each packed with hilarious insights that anyone can relate to, from the freshest frat boy cub to the most mature and sultry cougar. Needless to say, the Cougared.com team have to give this slick and sexy collection of encounters the paw print of approval. Meow!

Ladies, have you ever been caught fantasising out loud about a hot young man…by his mother?  That’s what  happens to Jules Cobb, a 40-something divorcee in the brand new comedy series ‘Cougar Town’ being screened on ABC later this September.

Back on the dating scene for the first time in years Jules, played by super sexy Courtney Cox discovers that men her age are either ‘broken, gay or chasing younger girls’.  So, she thinks, what’s left? Attractive younger men of course! Read more »

Tags: cougar town, courtney cox, jules cobb

Since the term ‘cougar’ came about there has been some confusion on the dating scene as to whether the woman in question has to have plenty of money and be willing to splash the cash on her younger lover to qualify.

The idea that cougars are by default ’sugar mammas’ seems to be a popular concept among some of the guys (although certainly not all) who hit the bars and clubs on a ‘cougar chase’, but it has been challenged by lots of  women who have modest financial means but still consider themselves to be the real deal in the cougar stakes. Read more »

Remember a few weeks ago we launched a competition to find a new slogan for Cougard.com? Well we had some great entries from site members and it was a real tough one to pick a winner, but I’m pleased to announce the winner is Lulu from the UK who came up with the line:

“Where the women are older and bolder”

We thought that was a pretty cool slogan and the Amazon gift vouchers are on their way to Lulu. But the more we thought about it, the more we realised that one of the best things about the web is that unlike a magazine it’s totally interactive and always evolving. So we decided we are going to have a rotating slogan that changes now and then just to make it a bit more interesting, so look out for that.

Now how about some of the entires that didn’t quite make it? Here’s a selection of the best and worst that we received (I’ll leave it up to you to decide which is which):

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Cougared.com’s relationship advice blogger Lucia recently hosted a speed dating event exclusively for older women and younger men. After the event Lucia sent us this message which we are delighted to publish here on the blog:

“I would like to thank everyone who helped make the launch of Cougar Speed Date on February 11 a huge success.  I don’t think there has ever been a speed dating quite like this before.

I was pleasantly surprised at how attractive the participants were. There was plenty of sushi, vodka shots mixed with Cougar Energy Drink and belly dancers.  To top it off, KTLA was nice enough to stop by and interview me (video to be posted in the near future).

People are already asking about the next one. I don’t have an exact date yet, but I can tell you that it will be a mixer instead of a speed date and it will be even bigger and better than the launch.

Be sure to get on the mailing list (www.cougarspeeddate.com) and be the first to know about our next event!”

During my senior year in High School, as I was getting regular action from my first ever cub, I read an article in Cosmopolitan which was to shape my entire sex life.

It was the 80s, and the sexual advice published in women’s magazines was getting more and more literal with each subsequent issue. In that specific article a woman in her forties was talking about her twenties.

She was quoted saying something like: “If only I could have the body I had then with the knowledge, experience and confidence I have now!” I was an early wake up call, and my instant reaction was: “Well, I’ll be damned if anyone ever catches me ever saying that. Ever thinking it even.”

I thus proceeded to embark on the path of sexual enlightenment in a swift, efficient, and one might say, almost military fashion. The journey was full of adventures and surprises, and as one would expect, mostly enjoyable. And like our new blogger Stan, I wasn’t oblivious to the charms of youth. But better sex (and to be fair, better interaction all-round) was usually to be found with more experienced partners, sometimes men whose kids were older than me. Made perfect sense. Just as much as the other way round makes sense now: it’s all part of passing knowledge on to the next generation.

So for now, I’d like to congratulate Stan for his successful interview, and wish him great sex and great fun with his new boss, her grey hair, and her “warm cloak of confidence.” In the meantime, I will keep on making good use of my own (and now long-acquired) confidence in all the bedrooms in my life.

It’s time again for our regular Q & A with cougar dating expert Lucia. Here she handles some tricky relationship dilemmas, covering workplace encounters, date conversation topics and the sexual differences between older and younger women.

Mandy M. writes: I’ve been with my man now for about 6 months, he’s 27 and I’m exactly 20 years older. We met at work and things are going great between us apart from one thing - he won’t tell our co-workers about our relationship. He tells me that it’s because our boss might think it was unprofessional that we are dating, but I think he’s ashamed about our age difference and what his buddies at work will say. Shall I just tell everyone at work or agree to keep it quiet? Read more »

Well, I’m really excited to have Stan onboard. A young male blogging on here should make for interesting – if sadly virtual – interaction.

As it happens, that interview story of his got me thinking all the way back to my first experience with a younger man. I mentioned in my own opening post that I have bad memories of bedding a seventeen year old when I was in my early twenties. I’m still shuddering. However, he wasn’t my first. In fact, my very, very first sexual encounter was with a younger man in college. I hardly qualified as puma then, let alone a cougar. But still, one doesn’t become the Cougar Queen overnight, and this is proof.

As the French exchange student, I had a reputation to live up to. But the truth is, I was sweet and innocent back then. This resulted in an uncanny role reversal: the younger one was initiating the older one. The boy would give me oral sex right on High School turf, during the bi-weekly theatre rehearsals, which went on for a good few months. The fact that I was white and he was black was just an extra kick, because this happened, of all places, in Arkansas. It was all deliciously dangerous. One of my classmates caught us walking out of our secret closet once, but to her credit, she never told anyone. If she had, I doubt I would have lived to tell this story.

Great memories.  No shuddering. Or maybe yes, actually, a slight shudder. But one of pleasure and longing… as I recall his dark, toned body and his educated tongue educating me.